I had a session today with a client of mine that I've been seeing for 5+ years. We started seeing each other, as all pro relationships begin, a little cautiously, neither wanting to offend the other or overexpose the depths of our perversity (everyone isn't genuinely interested in knowing how deeply perverted their Domme is!), but after our first session he was cleverly swayed by my spanking style to see me again. He wanted a pervy perv session, he asked for nipple torture and some spanking.
We now do so many different activities that it's like sessioning with an entirely different person than the one who first came to me. I convinced him that he would like electricity. I was right. Loves loves loves it. We do more corporal, heavier tortures, the occasional shower, I make his poor nipples bleed, cbt, weights... oh, the lovely list goes on. We became comfortable with each other. I miss him when he's not around, we laugh our asses off when we play. He takes more than he would ever imagine that he could. I give more than he would have thought possible in a 'professional' relationship.
Is it a pro-relationship? Absolutely. I appreciate his never questioning my need to be paid to do this - after all, if I weren't a pro, he would never have met me, I couldn't see him during the times that he's available and he wouldn't ever be sure that he could safely live the rest of his life without my interference.
Is it nothing but money? Absolutely not. I worry about him when I don't hear from him, I think about him out of the blue and will have a laugh about something we said or did last time we were together. I give of myself in a way that I couldn't do if we hadn't devoted time to one another. I will rearrange other plans if possible to accomodate his narrow time availabilities. And I like him. Very much. As a person, as a pervy player, as a client, and as a friend.
Just so you all know - you matter. A lot.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
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Hi Mistress Wynter:
Thank you for posting this. Your first post about Prodommes and relationships spoke about your relationship with your boy very eloquently. Here you answered the other side of the question about Prodomme/subbie relationships which was; "how do you make this work with a client?" Not every client of course. I realize many thrill seekers who walk through your door are not worthy of this type of deep affection. But it is very nice to know how deeply you care about the "special" ones.
You know me. I'm a romantic sap! If there aren't genuine feelings between Mistress and sub the whole thing becomes a bit like a broken pencil....pointless! ;-)
I love your blog! You have me on the edge of my seat as you continue to reveal more about your world from your unique point of view! I can't wait to read more! :-)
Warm Regards,
hmp
This just makes me want to give you one of those running *hugs*
That is all.
*HUGGGGGGGG*
I think, Mistress, that the people who use "she won't see me for free" as proof that "she only cares about the money" are missing something huge.
As a professional, you can afford to invest far more time, energy, and money in play than you could if you had a vanilla job. The more you play for free, the more you endanger your ability to play as much and as well as you do.
I know several Ladies who became pros for just this reason: it let them play all the time.
The money enables play; it's not the reason for play.
Reverently, Étienne
I also think money enables a market; creates value; and develops expertise and skill.
Three years after I stopped seeing a wonderful prodomme with whom I did absolutely everything on the clock and often contributed more just beacause I felt like it, she called me for my shrink's name. She was concerned about one of her clients and she knew I had a great shrink.
Who says prodommes aren't good friends even when it's all pay-to-play?
Thank you. You summed it perfectly.
Thank you but.... All pro domme relationships are built on the foundation of a financial exchange. If you take the money out of the equation, virtually all would end.
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